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The tools for
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Balanced Spirituality and IndividualityMaturity is about respecting these individual differences and finding ways of dealing with them that work for all the parties involved. Intimacy with God and others occurs through personal relationships that go beyond a predefined set of rules. Drawing from each persons life histories and personal stories a relationship is forged with the creator God to realise new levels of trust and intimacy. Rules can take on new forms that meet the individual needs of the parties involved. This personal relationship with the creator will emphasise the uniqueness of your creation for a special purpose. In an intimate and personal way your creator who “knitted you in your mothers womb” and has counted every hair on your head respects your free agency to choose to follow the passions and dreams that He has placed in your heart. This is a Christian Mature relationship. That you have boldness to follow your dreams free from stayed religious fears and live out your destiny. Yet at the same time trust in Gods position as your creator who knows you best to always follow in the ways that he directs you. Having times of direct insight with God and other times when you discern the way as best you can, ever trusting and having faith in a faithful loving God. Skills for a more balanced spirituality and individuality; Working out how much each partner contributes with their time, energy and resources then is a matter for each individual couple. Don't limit yourself to the stereotypes imposed on you by the media and society. Make your own boundaries. Role play and have fun in your relationship trying out new combinations that will help you find balance. Keep that childlike spirit about you as you together experiment with different approaches to day to day living that will help maintain the individuality balance. Play is more easily established in a safe environment that allows you to become vulnerable. This is achieved by maintaining safe boundaries that are explicitly articulated. Some bare limits are needed and will help sooth your individuality issues and help you get on with the job of establishing an expressive and collaborative relationship with your partner. Remember you only fail when you fail to try. Persist in finding a point in your negotiations where both parties are happy with the outcome. This will vary from negotiation to negotiation, where one partner will find one thing more important than the other. It's a great way to get to know one another. Conflict Skills for balanced spirituality and individuality; Mutual sharing Trade-offs. Agreeing to disagree, Agreeing to put a difficult matter, Finding ways to help make it safe for each partner to increase their sense of intimacy Understanding that the greater the level of intimacy means an increased sense of vulnerability. Developing boundaries that are comfortable for both partners around critical issues such as sexual boundaries and limits, financial boundaries and limits and family. Adapted from the balanced spirituality and individuality work by John Nutting http://www.growingaware.com.au/ ALT_POWER_CONTROL_IN_RELATIONSHIPS.HTM Back to top of balanced spirituality and individuality
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