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How do men disrespect women in relationshipsQ. How do men disrespect women? A. Through their attitude. The first relationship to look at exploration of attitude in relation to power and individuality issues in relationships is the traditional patriarchal relationship. In the introduction page we discovered the relevancy of exploring these issues in ourselves and the relations we have with our creator God. Emphasis is given to developing individual freedoms in our relationship while minimizing power struggles. This is the first bonding patterns of five relationship bonding patterns we may establish with our Creator that we need to overcome. It is the Traditional Patriarchal. Q. How do men disrespect women? A. The same way they disrespect God. The common trait is that both the inner patriarchs and matriarchs is they do not show loyalty to the creation plan. Examining them presents a tangible way of examining some of the blockages and turmoil we put in the way of our relationship with our creator and give clear contrast to positive bonding patters. When we reference these ideas to our creator God we can only assume we are the one that shows disloyalty to our creation purpose. Understanding these traits and developing positive bonding patterns is key to relationship growth. The characteristics of the inner, patriarch and matriarch are: (ALL GREEN = John Notting, 2003, growingaware.com.au) They do not support personal
growth, self-awareness or self empowerment of the individual whose
village they live in.
They will try to prevent the
individual whose village they live in from developing a balanced,
aware, integrated and grown-up lifestyle.
They are against anything that will help the individual whose village they live in, to develop closer grown-up friendships. John Nutting Are you committed to building Gods kingdom? Do you sometimes sabotage your relationship with your creator to try to hold onto power yourself? Spiritual-Self proposes that these inner matriarch and inner patriarch behaviors patters exist as an attempt by individuals to hang onto power, rather then give it over to the creators purposes. 1. Traditional Patriarchal: How do men disrespect
women?
This type of relationship is based on male dominated teachings typically found in conservative religion based societies where the male is regarded as unquestionably dominant. Patriarchal relationships are based on and justified by their traditional view which regards women as weaker, less intelligent and therefore entitled to be controlled by the stronger male. Neither men nor women question this assumption. Females are expected to be subservient to males on most matters both within and outside the family. In this kind of relationship while the male experiences many opportunities for independence, there is very little opportunity for the female to experience life as an individual. John Nutting How do men disrespect women? In attempts to try to understand God through formulas and rules. It is the idea that if we can turn the bible into a bunch of things that people have to do in order to get accepted by God. It's the little boy to busy trying to gain acceptance by trying to show God how good he is, not knowing that God loves him, and has provided another way to have perfect relationship through Jesus. The inner patriarch has difficulty accepting the different ways there are to understand relationship with the father and that the knowing the creator is a relational act and not a set of principles to follow. Perhaps you find yourself getting angry with the creator for not following the rules? Why not talk with your Creator about this through prayer? Characteristics of the inner patriarch; How do men disrespect women? The overriding
characteristics of the inner patriarch is that even when he sets up his
house inside a woman's village is loyalty is to the men around her and
to maintaining their power and control over all women, the way they
think and act and feel. His overriding loyalty is towards the male
hierarchy and the male dominated patriarchal lifestyle. Typically, you
will observe an inner patriarch taking the side of another man or
another patriarch living nearby in another person's inner village, in
preference to the woman in whose village he has set up his house. John
Nutting
How do men disrespect women? Amongst your friends the in your congregation do you find yourself trying to simply bundle your spirituality in to neat categories and rules of behavior and insisting this as the way to holiness. So, like
the inner matriarch he is different from other Inner Villagers, in that
he does not seem to be concerned with the well-being of the wounded
female inner child in the village where she lives. He will do nothing
to assist in empowering other female villagers who live there. Rather
he will do everything he can to keep them from feeling any sense of
power, or ability.John Nutting
These actions come from an insecurity, a fear, an inadequacy mindset, a moral panic that worries about feminine power taking control. You may hear it in outrages against, political correctness that go to far. The type of fear that women will start trying to have children without men and the fear that God will try to rip you off. By trying to reduce God to a set of rules and systems gives comfort to the wounded individual, but the price is they fail to fully connect with their Creator. How do men disrespect women? They fail to consider ways to a more balanced relationship style. Top of how do men disrespect women?
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